Words that nurture the mind

Words that nurture the mind

We’ve picked some tips from “NEW MORALS” to live better.
We will update it irregularly.
(Quote from『New morals:Words that nurture the mind 366 days』〔Written in Japanese〕)


Three stonemasons

When a traveler asked the three masons working at the construction site, “What are you doing now?” The first mason said, “The master told me to cut the stone.” The second mason said, “I’m cutting stones on the castle walls to support the family.” And the third mason replied, “I’m cutting stones to make the finest castle walls in this area.”
Your awareness of work changes depending on how you understand the purpose of your own work. Also, as much as you put your heart into your work, you will feel a great deal of joy when your efforts are fruitful.
Even if you initially felt unwilling to work, when you continue to work sincerely and put your heart into making dedicated efforts, there may be times to find joy.

(Update on 2024. Mar. 1)


Consideration when you do “a good thing”

The manager, Mr./Ms. H, recently started cleaning the sidewalks around the factory before starting work.
When he/she heard that the president’s efforts to enhance humanity would improve the corporate culture and give employees vitality, he/she was convinced.
However, two weeks later, Mr./Ms. H was starting to irritate employees who were not going to help with the cleaning.
Employees seem to be talking with each other behind the scenes, “Cleaning ostentatiously makes us feel suffocating.”

What do we think of when we do “a good thing?”
We want to be thankful, praised, acknowledged…. Perhaps we might expect such a reward.
However, there is a completely different mind between doing “a good thing” with such a secret expectation and with thoughts purely “for the other person and others”.
It would be the turning point whether enhancing your humanity or not, and bringing joy to others or not.

(Update on 2024. Jan. 24)


People supporting your “life” are…

Just as each of us has parents who gave birth and raised us, our father and mother each has their own parents (grandparents for oneself), and my grandparents also have their parents (great grandparents for oneself).
At least 14 people will be supporting your “life” in the total of parents, grandparents and great-grandparents, if you count up to this point.
Then, going back to the 30 generations, there are more than 2.1 billion ancestors in total by the calculation, for supporting one’s life.
We are the ones who inherit “life” from innumerable ancestors, and also have a mission to connect this to descendants.
By being aware of such “the meaning of one’s own life,” you can realize that oneself is irreplaceable and live strongly and vigorously.

(Update on 2023. Dec. 21)


Focus on people’s “thoughts”

It seems that we need some motivation to be able to accept the thoughts of the other person. The trigger varies depending on the person.
It could be big events like turning points in one’s own life or having various problems for children. Also, even if there is no special event, by reflecting daily on our hearts, we may get an opportunity to receive the thoughts of the other person. In any case, how you take the opportunity depends on your own heart.
When you lose heart to accept the thoughts of others, you are often overly obsessed and stuck with your thoughts. It is important for us to open your mind and focus on the thoughts of others, not only to pay attention to ourselves.
By doing so, you can find joy in yourself and have a fulfilling life.

(Update on 2023. Oct. 23)


Reverse thinking to improve oneself

When the thing that is inconvenient for oneself happens (When something bad happens to us), we are often to blame others for the cause.
And we blame the persons in a heart, acting for a complaint and dissatisfaction.
However, if you think of the person as a mirror that reflects on you,
you will be able to accept the person who better teaches you about shortage and immaturity of yourself, and points to reflect on faults.

We don’t review or reflect on our actions and thoughts when things are going well.
So when troubles and conflicts occur, it’s a chance to look back on yourself, and a chance to take a new step for your growth.
The idea of “Regarding someone who you want to avoid as your benefactor polishing and enhancing your heart” can be said that “Reverse thinking” which enriches our human relationships and enhances ourselves.

(Update on 2023. Sep. 20)


To open up a life full of joy

It is said that we cannot live alone. We live by helping and supporting each other in so many “connections, “from deep ties with parents and children, couples, and close friends to relationships with the various people we meet in society.
How well do we apply the warmth and kindness that grows in our hearts to our daily lives?
When we greatly develop a warm heart for others and express our desire to give joy, peace of mind, and satisfaction through our words and actions, no matter how small the act, it is sure to touch the hearts of others.
The warmth created in this way will spread to the surroundings and become a driving force for building a better society. That is where our own joyful life opens up.

(Update on 2023. Aug. 22)


Mindfulness Training

It is quite hard to actually show our consideration to others if we are too busy and have no room in our mind even though we understand it is important to have consideration for others in living our lives. In order to have enough room in our mind, we need to have mental training so that you can always practice things such as “think from a different position” and “is there any other way of thinking?” For that, we need to think with close attention about various matters on a daily basis.
Even if we feel like blaming someone temporarily, we should try to put ourselves in someone’s shoes and look at our own hearts and minds.
By continuing the training over time, the effect will gradually come out and we will be able to truly understand the feelings of the other person from the other person’s perspective. 

(Update on 2023. Jul. 24)


It is the Athenians who know goodness, and the Spartans who do goodness

It is a story of ancient Greek. During the performance at a theatre, an old man came in late and couldn’t find any seats People looked at the old man being baffled and laughed at him. At that time, a few envoys of Spartans welcomed the old man and offered a seat. The audiences in the full hall were impressed and applauded with Spartan’s behavior and were also ashamed by their own immorality. The saying “It is the Athenians who know goodness, and the Spartans who do goodness” comes from this happening.
Japanese word “Keirou” literally means showing deference to elderly people. However, just knowing the word as knowledge doesn’t mean you really respect for elderly people. Why don’t we think again about the way of respecting elderly through communicating heart to heart ?

(Update on 2023. Jun. 22)


Each person’s mind creates the future

Our forerunners have been grateful for the blessings of nature and have used resources carefully for the world and for us as descendants. Now we too have the task of sowing the new seeds for the next generation.
British astronomer William Herschel (1738-1822) said, “Friend, when we die, let’s make the world a little better than when we were born.”
For the descendants, we need to carefully inherit the natural environment, resources, society, culture, way of life, etc., in the best possible condition. In order to do so, we would think about what we can do in our daily lives and take action, and by doing that it could also enrich our hearts and living.

(Update on 2023. May 23)


A moral practice needs courage

Confucius said, “Virtuous men are always brave, but brave men are not always virtuous.” He taught a moral practice with others needs to have courage taking an initiative. We may refrain from practicing morals when we think the actions as embarrassing, awkward, or non-beneficial. However, the basis for building a close relationship in everyday life is “a heart considering and caring for other people,” that is, morality. That is why morality is often called as a lubricant for human relationships. Doing “good things” makes the person have great joy and satisfaction. When as many people as possible can nurture morality and practice it with courage in their daily lives, it will surely lead to brighter and better improvements in the home and society.

(Update on 2023. Apr. 26)


“Character” is a core of human nature

In “New Moral,” we believe that the morality of a person will be built by every day’s moral consideration and actions. This morality is also called “character”, it is the power to integrate various human abilities and can be called the core of humanity. Character precisely directs in building our intelligence, authority, economic power, and even problem-solving ability. No matter how good our knowledge and skills are, what if we misuse them to make people unhappy? The greater power we have, then it is essential to improve our characters. So, we can properly use the power to contribute making us and people around us happy. By continuing such efforts, you will become more attractive as you grow older, and you will have a satisfying relationship and a fulfilling life.

(Update on 2023. Mar. 22)


Bring out the Child’s independence

Hatsue (50 years old) has a husband and three daughters, five family members in total. She was relieved her two elder daughters entered universities, and she thought the youngest daughter, Teruko, would also goes on to university. However, Teruko decided to go to a confectionery vocational school without telling anyone. Hatsue wanted Teruko for going to university because Hatsue felt the decision was made by impulse decision-making. Parents are always happy to see the child’s growth. However, when a child’s decision differs from theirs, parents might become egoistic. Then, parents need to reflect on their feelings carefully. What important is putting themselves in the child’s position to find what and when the child feels happy to effectively build their independencies and zest for living.

(Update on 2023. Feb. 20)


Save the local communities, save yourself

As the urbanization progresses, the movement reconsidering the importance of local communities is taking place across the country. In other words, each citizen is taking responsibility for solving various community issues in cooperation with the public sector. For example, some communities hold activities including “get involved with education for children by sharing local adults’ experiences,” and “visit living-alone elders and provide meals or talk to them.”
We do not need any specific skills or requirements to offer the services. Only a small amount of effort and time need to be offered for contributing to the community. Also, we feel pleasure and satisfaction. Moreover, through these activities, we will be a part of building a healthy community for local children and a society where we comfortably live in. The first step is to think about what we can serve and take it in action.

(Update on 2023. Jan. 23)


A heart without expecting anything in return

“Pity is akin to love. /The feeling of commiseration is the beginning of benevolence” is the famous quote by Mencius.
If a toddler seems falling off to a river, we try to help the toddler without any hesitation. The action is not caused by expecting appreciations or avoiding criticisms. It represents our charitable hearts without expecting anything in return. We all naturally have such hearts.
In reality, we tend to consider our benefits in return or treat people unequally rather than being kind and generous.
We all are double-sided. Therefore, it is essential to grow and develop our hearts with a charity in a day by day.

(Update on 2022. Dec. 15)


A moral practice is a “source of joy”

Our hearts tend to seek out benefits. Completely avoiding such behavior might be challenging, but it is important to focus on minimizing such behavior. Our hearts will be fulfilled with joy as the result of the efforts on having “gratitude” and “compassion.” We are enabled to feel the outcome immediately after experiencing it.
All of us hope to spend joyful lives. In reality, our lives would not be the same as expected. However, we could build more joyful lives by understanding the cause. Having good hearts bring us to be in joyful lives. A moral practice is not a journey finding pain, but a source of joy.

(Update on 2022. Nov. 11)


Image of Mt. Fuji

If you were asked to draw the image of Mount Fuji, how would you draw? One might draw Mt. Fuji seen from the train window of the Shinkansen bullet train, while another might draw its picture together with the clouds floating on the summit… There might be some people who would draw a double circle in the image of the shape of a mountain looking down directly from above.
The shape of Mt.Fuji itself does not change. However, depending on where an observer’s view point is placed; whether it is seen from the side or looked down from the sky, the way it looks are completely different.
Replacing this idea in our daily life, people tend to think about things on their own. However, if you change your point of sight to the other side or to the third party, it may broaden your horizons and discover new things.

(Update on 2022. Oct. 12)


Senior generations supporting “today”

Thinking of the lives of parents and ancestors, it goes without saying that the lives have never been more convenient and affluent than ones are now in modern society. We assume that they had various hardships in each period such as being challenged by wars, disasters, or supply shortages. However, they lived their own lives strongly and raised the next generation with great care. Moreover, they tried to build a better society for future generations. We exist here and live our lives today thanks to the achievement handed down to generations.
Our parents, grandparents, and elderly people in our local community who we communicate within our daily lives are the representatives of those senior generations. It is important to nurture the mind of respect and gratitude through communication towards the senior generations who had hard times for passing on life to the next generations and the development of society.

(Update on 2022. Sep. 13)


The idea of “Okagesama (Thanks to someone/thing)”

When we have hard times, we tend to look for the reasons in others or the own circumstances and say in our mind such as ” am suffering because of that person,” or “I have this hard feeling because of my unfortunate situation.”
Our mind can easily find these causes of “someone/thing’s fault” if we leave this feeling. The more we find them, the more we feel depressed.
So let’s take a look at different perspectives and convert “someone/thing’s fault” to “thanks to someone/thing.” Then the following sentences will change such as “I am growing thanks to that person” or “I will become a hard-working person thanks to this situation.”
Your heart will be fulfilled and your life will be led to a better direction if you always remember gratitude and accept the difficulties and challenges with the idea of “Okagesama (Thanks to someone/thing).”

(Update on 2022. Aug. 10)


Father and mother who are good listeners

On the day a chick was born in the kindergarten, Yuta ran into the living room where his mother was because he wanted to express his excitement.
However, his mother was busy and said, “I’ll listen to you later.” By the time his mother finished her tasks, Yuta’s emotions have already faded away.
When parents are busy with household or work, they tend to give a half-hearted answer with “yeah, yeah” and never take their children’s talks seriously or tend to put it off until later saying “I’m busy now, so leave it for later.”
However, children are often talking to you because they want to express their emotions (feelings) rather than their content (matter). If you don’t hear them when they are in the heat of the moment to talk to you, they won’t feel like talking about it later. Even if you are busy, you need to take a break for a moment and listen to your children’s inner voice behind their words. By becoming a good listener, you and your child will be able to expand the warmth of your relationship.

(Update on 2022. Jun. 27)


Love without “valuing”

There always seems to be a common element when the heart to heart relationships are established
Mr. Mineyasu Sugita, a clinical psychologist, says “it’s not a matter of love which are conveniently conditioned and valued because they are cute, they listen to you, they get good grades, or they are financially wealthy, but rather to interact with others with a feeling that their existence is important – in other words, a great love without conditions – is real love.” (Abstract/Reference = “Love Strokes,” which nurtures people, The Institute of Moralogy)
When we interact with people, it’s easy for us to try taking care of the people who meet our expectations. We want to focus on acknowledging the other person and wishing their happiness, not on whether it’s good or bad for us.

(Update on 2022. May 11)


The “main” and “supporting” roles in life

As the “stars” of our own lives, we take things with a focus on ourselves. Therefore, there are many conflicts in our interactions with others.
For example, in the parent-child relationship, if you look at a child from the parent’s perspective, you’ll get angry if the things never work out as you expect. Even in the workplace, a supervisor who thinks he or she is always right could feel that the subordinate who disagrees with him or her is the one who does not follow instructions. However, a child may be trying to bring out the full potential and to live life to the fullest, and a subordinate may think about how the work should be taken better from a different angle as yours.
We all want to shine our life. It’s important to acknowledge that everyone around you feels the same way and plays a good supporting role. We are the “main players” in our own lives and the “supporting players” in the lives of others.

(Update on 2022. Apr. 18)


The Power of Smile to Support People

Have you ever experienced to overcome the pain or sadness because you are encouraged by the warm smiles of your parents or those who took your place as a parent? If you become a parent, your children’s smiles will encourage you and you can try to live a better life.
Smiles and happy faces which are forgetful, not only a motivation in our lives, but also important in strengthening the bond between parents and children.
Close your eyes and think about the smiles of your fathers, mothers, and children who are irreplaceable to you. You will be filled with the energy to live.

(Update on 2022. Mar. 29)


If you stack “a grain of rice”

This is a story about the Confucian scholar, Arai Hakuseki (1657-1725) when he was a boy. Hakuseki’s father took a grain of rice from the rice bin and told him to take a good look at it to see where the amount of rice in the bin decreased. But Hakuseki was unable to figure out which part was taken. Then his father took another grain. No matter how many times his father took out the grain, the rice amount in the bin did not seem to decrease. Then his father said, “If I’ll keep doing this for a year or so, then you’ll realize the amount has been decreased. If you slack off on studying one day or so, it won’t make much difference, but if you keep slacking off on studying, one day, you suddenly realize that you’ve become useless.

At the start of the new fiscal year, many of us are probably thinking of challenging ourselves to do something new. To accomplish one thing, it is important to make continuous small efforts every day.

Let’s take the first step toward our respective goals.

(Update on 2022. Mar. 10)


What’s behind the “support”

Sometimes we think we are doing everything on our own, but that’s not true. We may be supported by something without noticing it.
Why are we able to read books and write letters? Of course, we could say it is because we studied on our own, but it may be all because of the school systems which our ancestors have built up, and because of the teachers who taught us. More than anything else, the reason why we are surviving in this world today is because of our parents who have loved us, protected us, and raised us. Parents may walk in front of their children to follow, but their initiations are backing them up and trying to support them if the need arises.
We should be aware of much more “support” and give thanks for what is behind them.

(Update on 2022. Feb. 8)


Local power to support elderly people

What do we think when we hear the news about the “unrelatedness” of society? Just frowning or being pessimistic will not change anything.
Mr. and Mrs. H preside over a volunteer group that delivers handmade bento boxes at actual cost to the elderly in the area. The number of users is increasing year by year, and the circle of people who empathize with the activity and participate in volunteering is expanding. The taste of a household that elderly people are looking forward to, saying, “We can’t make many dishes while living alone or two, and if we buy a ready-made one, the taste is strong.” In addition to nutritional balance, food arrangement and seasonal delicacy are considered. It is also an important role to hand the lunch box to the users and check their condition. When volunteer repeatedly visit users, they sometimes receive consultations on users’ daily lives.

(Update on 2021. Dec. 20)


Motivation for creating warm society

As long as we live in a society, we receive help from people around us.
For example, no one would benefit from public services such as transportation, electricity, gas, water, education and welfare. We live in a society where we support each other. In other words, we live in a relationship where we cause trouble to others and being caused trouble. There are times when we may cause trouble to others without even realizing it.
The important thing is to realize that we are in such a relationship. At that time, we may feel appreciation for the many benefits as well as start having a motivation to work for people who are close to us and contribute to the society by doing what we can do.
The positive efforts of each and every one of us will become a driving force for creating a bright and warm society. We might not see it now, but it will lead to our own happiness.

(Update on 2021. Nov. 1)


Because everyone is doing

“Because everyone is doing”
When we say this, we may have a sense of guilt for what we are doing. We may make an excuse for ourselves that “it is not the only me who is doing bad things, but everybody around me.” Even if we feel a bit wrong of what we are doing somewhere in our heart, we may keep doing it for no reason at all if we are told “because everyone is doing” or “because we have been doing it up till now.”

We have the weakness of being drawn into our surroundings, even though we feel some pain in our conscience or we already know that it’s not a good thing. We would like to cultivate the strength that allows us to choose the right path we believe regardless of the surroundings.

(Update on 2021. Oct. 15)


Becoming “Someone”

Cleaning and cooking are the family chores someone has to conduct at home. You can’t feel relaxed at home if one forces another to do family chores or vice versa, even if both husband and wife are busy with their work or parenting.
There is a phrase “Practice what you preach.” If someone has to do it, then be the one — by changing your attitude to this way, you can make your mind more positive and have the motivation to take initiative.
The idea of “becoming someone” is important not only at home but also in the society. Each person’s thought may be small, but if we turn this thought into action as “kindness” and “helping each other,” our society will change dramatically. In order to make it happen, it is necessary to have the courage to be that “someone” rather than leaving it to others.

(Update on 2021. Sep. 15)


“Positive mind” lifestyle

“Lifestyle-related diseases” are known that it does not suddenly come to us but it appears when we reach a certain age, since the roots of diseases are gradually spreading due to the lifestyle from our young age. In the same way, could we make a big difference in our lives as we put our small thoughtfulness day by day?
Our hearts work both positively and negatively. That is why, we would like to have a “positive mind” lifestyle through daily small actions. For example, greeting cheerfully, saying warm words, cleaning comfortably, lining up shoes pleasantly, attending to people with kindness, and so on.
You would give happy feelings to your surroundings if your lifestyle has a “positive mind” through what you can do right now.

(Update on 2021. Aug. 30)


Joy of supporting each other

Mr. Erik Homburger Erikson from United States of America who is famous for developmental psychology says“Not only parents raise their child but also their child raises their parents.”
When we think of the involvement with our child, we are likely to think that parents should give something to their child or teach them. However, as a matter of fact, there are many things that parents themselves could learn from their child through their interaction. It would be important for parents to raise their child as well as notice the point of view that is “parents are supported by their child and growing together in gratitude for the existence of their child”.
We would like to experience the joy of living as many as we can in our daily lives that parents and their child are supporting each other. Also, it would be necessary to be considerate toward “the development of our hearts” in order for us to be able to find a chance to do so.

(Update on 2021. Aug 5)


Rethinking the “vertical relationship”

Touju Nakae(1608-1648) devoted himself to a life of spiritual seeking in poverty in Edo era, and he was called the Saint of Oumi referring to an honorable person. He used to say “Ko” which means to be filial to parents is a protagonist that defeats ‘Shi,’ which represents the self-centered and egoistic mindset”.
There is spirit of “Ko” that defeats the egocentric desire when a person is giving him/herself into such desire. The saying describes that someone can build a self-discipline only after the person reflects on him/herself among the “vertical relationship.” the link with ancestors and descendants.
It is not until becoming conscious about the “vertical relationship” that a person realizes his/her mission to pass on the heritage from ancestors to descendants, no matter in physical or spiritual way.
The self-centered mind is hard to be controlled even the person knows it is not appropriate. The key to discipline such mind could be not only the bonds with people who live in the same society and era, but also in the bonds of “vertical relationship/”

(Update on 2021. Jun. 2)


Throwing a ball that is easy to catch

Communication is often likened to “playing a catch.” Watching the other’s situation and throwing the ball that the other can easily catch are the basics.
However, we are not able to see the other person directly through email, letter or phone call.
In such situation, we need to be warm-hearted and considerate of the other’s situation in order to play a catch successfully. These mindsets will lead to a better communication, making the other feel comfortable and trustful.
When you communicate by email, for instance, it is better to soften the tone, since email normally seems brisker than the handwritten letter. When you write a letter, it would be nice to keep the writings beautiful or choose sophisticated paper and envelope. In the case of phone call, we should first make sure the other person is available and then tell the reason for your call. It is also nice to put the telephone receiver quietly – these small acts of consideration are “the ball which is easy to catch” and will express your consideration and affection for the other person.

(Update on 2021. May 17)


Weaknesses become strengths

Different people have different impression when looking at the flowers at the entrance.
Some people might find it bothering for passing the space, some might not be attracted to it at all, some will feel it is beautiful, some will appreciate it, some might think of the kindness of someone who brought the flower.
There might be also people who do not even notice the flower.
Flower is living as it is. It is people who see it from different angles and judge its value. This would be applied to human too. If we change our mindset, we will not see things as negative points but as beauty. For example, being “persisting” could turn to “passionate,” being “stubborn” could be “strong-minded,” and “meddlesome person” could be “kind person.”
It would be nice to have a peaceful mind every day, making it a habit to find the beautiful side and showing appreciation to things we encounter every day, no matter it is a person or object.

(Update on 2021. Apr. 23)


Be a good listener

We sometimes face unacceptable grief or pain such as accident, disease, loss of their loved ones unexpectedly.
When somebody around you is in such grief, you might think that “I want to comfort and cheer him/her up in someway.” However, you could rather worsen the pain if you talk to the person headedly and impose your one-sided thoughts without understanding enough.
Mr. Alfons Deeken, a professor emeritus at Sofia University says that it is essential in such circumstances to be a good listener to make the other person feel safe and open his/her mind to talk. We would be required to stay beside the other, respect him/her by accepting his/her feelings, and try to empathize with him/her. It is these attitudes which could heal someone’s pain and sorrow.

(Update on 2021. Mar. 12)


Thoughtfulness learned from “Edo etiquette”

In Edo era, people started practicing “Edo etiquette” to make the life more comfortable living with others as the population surpassed one million at its peak in Edo town.
The etiquette included the actions such as avoiding the rain drops falling on the other person by “tilting the umbrella” when passing each other, or offering the seats on boat for those who came later by “raising from the seat and make a space of a fist size.” Ms. Reiko Koshikawa who works on inheriting the “Edo etiquette” says “In the past it was natural to think “Buddha and ancestors are watching and protecting us, so we should help each other with compassion.” I feel that there is a lack of “compassion for others’ in our modern society.”
It is regrettable that people are losing the mindset to be considerate of those around them in the hectic life. Let’s learn “a little compassion” from our ancestors, shall we?

(Update on 2021. Feb. 19)


Parent is the child’s first teacher

“The parent is the child’s first teacher” is the word of Johann Heinrich Pestalozzi, educator of Switzerland (1746-1827). We will be parents spontaneously when we get married and have a baby. However, do you think you are aware of doing “study for being parents”?
Many people might think that “study for being parents” is the skills which are taught on child-caring books or in parents’ classes such as the way of baby bath and of making milk. This kind of study is necessary for the generation those who have not had a chance for raising children as the number of nuclear family is getting bigger, however, the mindset such as “for what they raise their child” and “what would they expect their child to be in the future” is much more needed for the parents to become more parental. Children would learn parents’ wish from what they see on the back of their parents. This explains that parents are required to think how they live their own lives sincerely.

(Update on 2021. Jan. 30)


Live with support

Our lives are always supported somewhere by someone.
In order to make our lives full with joy, it is essential to deepen our relationships and develop your thoughtful heart of your own will – “a heart to respect other’s personal character and accept it” and “a heart to sympathize with other’s joy and grief.” When you open your own mind, stay considerate of feelings of others, and accept these things unconditionally, you could touch the “real thought” hidden behind their words, don’t you think so?
It would be good to think of the fact again “you are supported by many people” when you face a hardship and feel down. You would surely recover a positive mind if you gain the feelings such as “I want to give back to everyone” and “I want to be able to support someone” from your gratitude to them.

(Update on 2021. Jan. 15)


Practice of the morality

What is morality?
Everybody knows the point that morality is doing something good and can tell some examples when asked what the morality is concretely. For example, to have good manners, to be kind to others, to help people if they are in trouble, not to do something annoyance to other people, not to tell a lie, to keep their words, to have a thoughtful mind, and so on. There are so many things to list.
In general, we think that “practice of morality” is what we practice concretely by behavior and words. It is profoundly important to practice concretely, however, it is more important to consider how to carry out.
We would like to face our own thoughtful mind every single day.

(Update on 2020. Dec. 1)


“Caring mind” draws “Caring mind”

Our heart is truly honest. The feelings to the others are expressed as the expression, words, attitudes, behaviors and so on. When your kindness and caring mind are getting great, they certainly appear in our words and behaviors. There is infinite force in our hearts to enrich our lives.
With what kind of your heart do you treat your family who are the closest persons for you? They say, “Love begets love, hate creates hate.” The kind hearts of your family would be drawn when you show your thoughtful heart to them at first. Each family member should aware, exercise their imagination just a little, and move your hearts towards somebody’s place and situation. From where you can, putting “Thoughtfulness” into practice would be a key for household harmony.

(Update on 2020. Nov. 18)


Encouragement for Communication

When young generation meets elderly people, there are 3 points to keep in mind.
First, to try to interact with them patiently and calmly. It would be good to treat them with your calm heart and attitude since our eyesight, hearing and physical strength are getting weak with age.
Second, to talk to them sincerely. Let’s talk to them nicely and sincerely even for a simple greeting such as “good morning”. Greetings are the first step for building a good relationship. Heart-to-heart connection would be developed when we greet close people sincerely and say a few words.
Third, to put yourself in somebody’s place. You should think how you can make the one happy.
On the other hand, it might be important for elderly people to have open hearts to accept the young generation’s voice, to appreciate, and to live with young mind which is keeping to grow even when old. These attitudes are good examples for young generation.

(Update on 2020. Nov. 2)


Small Kindness Spreads Small Good Deeds

There is a Zen master called Dougen (1200-1253) who is the founder of Eihei-ji Temple. He said “If you wish your own happiness, first thing to do is to make other people happy” and indicated four different ways to realize it.
First: “Fuse”- Offering your own belongings or knowledge to others to make others happy
Second: “Aigo”- Giving a warm and gentle words to others
Third: “Rigyo”- Behaving in a way to benefit many other people and make them happy
Forth: “Douji”- Working with others with cooperation
It is not difficult do these actions. Simply by giving a seat to the elderly on the train, answering kindly when somebody asked the directions or greeting people cheerfully, we will be able to build the basic morality for coexisting in the society. If each of us spreads the kindness and good deed, we shall realize the warm-hearted and comfortable society.

(Update on 2020. Oct. 13)


Appreciating “Life” and Fulfilling the Life of Goods

The word “MOTTAINAI” is defined as “losing a body of something,” according to the dictionary called “KOJIEN” (Publisher: Iwanami Shoten). “MOTTAINAI” seems to express the sense of regret not being able to make the best use of something or maximize the meaning of an existence. It also expresses the sense of waste when something is discarded while it still has some roles, or when “the life” was not fulfilled.
Traditionally, Japanese people have been seeing life in any kind of existence. The mass for the used needle or ink brush are some of the examples of existing custom which is to give the memorial service for the tools that fulfilled the role. We have inherited the mindset to appreciate any kind of things by giving the commemoration to the goods, not discard them once it finished its role.
It would be nice to reflect the spirit of “MOTTAINAI” and appreciate the “life” of any kind of existences, trying our best to maximize the ability of the things and fulfill its life to the fullest.

(Update on 2020. Oct. 5)


Different Places, Different Perspectives

There is a saying, “Rolling stone gathers no moss.” In the United Kingdom, this saying originally meant that “those who move from company to company will be able to gain neither the social status nor the wealth.” The moss requires long period of time for growing, and it was interpreted as “goodness” in this interpretation.
In the United States, on the other hand, there is a totally opposite interpretation such as “those who always move around never get left behind by the society.” This interpretation implies the negative image about the moss such as “dated” or “something that has to be removed.”
This saying represents how one saying could be used with totally different meanings depending on how it was perceived on moss. In the same way, there may be cases that we sometimes judge the event whether good or bad, even when there is no one and only value in itself? If you look at your worries from different angles, you may be able to interpret them in other ways.

(Update on 2020. Sep. 29)


Aging and Life Purpose

Japan has entered into a long-lived society. Longevity is something to be celebrated, but there are also concerns about how we should spend our time after the retirement, as the life in old age is getting longer. In order to sustain a colorful and active life even after the retirement, a social educationalist Mr. Masumi Tanaka suggests us a tip: “Engage in any job you like even in the old age.”
Having a “job” that is connected to our life goal or purpose gives us fulfilling and enriching life.
However, the meaning of job would not be limited to “a job for earning a living.”
By positively engaging in any kind of “job” including volunteering or house choir within your family, we will be able to contribute to the people surrounding us while gaining some joy for yourself.

(Update on 2020. Sep. 11)


Overcoming Difficulties By Changing Your Mindset

Mr. K, a 28-year-old office worker, had encountered a traffic accident and got hospitalized when he was in the third year of high school. It was right before the entrance exam of the university, so he had to give up on the exam that year. However, he turned over a new leaf by thinking “I would rather gain something from this experience to progress.” Next year, he finally gained the admission into the university that he strived for. When the graduation season got closer, he put extraordinary efforts on job hunting especially because he was one year behind his friends who were the same age. Now that he is getting married, he reflects back his life and says “If it were not for the traffic accident, I am not sure if I was able to work for my current company or if I could find my wife. Experiencing the traffic accident built up my current life.” Sometimes people unexpectedly encounter some difficulties throughout the life. It is not possible to put everything back in place once it happened, but it might be possible to transform the experience into “foundation of life” and make it meaningful, depending on your own mindset.

(Update on 2020. Sep. 1)


Cherish “the time with parents”

The old saying, “By the time you wish to be a good son, your parents are long gone” came about when the average life expectancy was much shorter. However, even now, in the era of longevity, there are many people who are tormented by the wish that “I could have taken care of them better” after their parents were gone.
The time a grown-up child spends with his/her parents is surprisingly short. For example, let’s say a child around the age of 40 lives independently at a distant location. If the parents are in their late sixties, their life expectancy will be about twenty years from now according to the current average longevity. If parents and children spend 10 days a year, 9 hours a day, face to face together, there will be 1,800 hours, which are equal to 75 days, in 20 years. Shall we think carefully about how to spend this limited time?

(Update on 2020. Aug. 15)


Don’t you take anger out on objects?

Everyone has the experience of being angry and frustrated in the unfavorable circumstances where things don’t go your way. However, how you handle the emotion varies from person to person. Some people may express his/her emotion in words and attitudes while some people may suppress his/her own emotion without showing it to the outside. There may be some people who take anger out on familiar objects.
No matter how you handle them, no objection comes back from any objects which don’t have emotions. There is no fault on the objects’ side in the first place. It doesn’t make sense to take your arbitrary emotion out on objects.
Shall we say “thank you” to everyday items such as cars, phones, shoes and dishes, like we say it to people who take care of us. It doesn’t make those items happy or cheerful, but it brings out our feeling of appreciation and enriches our heart. By accumulating it every day, rich humanity will be nurtured.

(Update on 2020. July 31)


Beware of “right thing”

Have you ever experienced that you were neglected by others before you knew even though you tried to say the “right thing” and to do the “right thing”?
It is important to follow the rules and etiquette of the “right thing” in order to maintain the social order. On the other hand, you can never build a good human relationship by blaming the people around you for the “right thing” in familiar places such as homes, workplaces, and communities.
We can see other people’s misconducts well, but we hardly notice our own mistakes. We may unknowingly bother others around us. It is important to think what if you are pointed it out. A person who is always considerate of the other person’s position and situation and who can act with a humble heart will be able to become familiar with everyone and build good relationships. It would be nice to have a warm personality like spring breeze.

(Update on 2020. July 4)


Give your mind to a third party

When we take action for someone else, we wonder “how the other person will receive our actions,” but sometimes such “consideration” is not enough. There are cases that you cause unexpected trouble to the people other than those who receive the action directly, or make those people feel uncomfortable.
In order to achieve the favorable results for yourself, the other person, and a third party, it is important to take a breath, no matter what you do, and give your mind to the person who is affected by your actions. You should imagine who will receive what kind of impact, how they are perceived, and think of ways to make it work better and take action. By making the habit of paying attention to the “third party” in this way, we can spread the mind of consideration to more people.

(Update on 2020. June 21)


Don’t forget your first resolution.

It is often said “don’t forget your first resolution.” First resolution is the pure and serious state of mind when you make an aspiration and get things started for the first time. Zeami, who was a master of world’s oldest theatrical art “Noh” during the Muromachi period, wrote the book “Kakyo” and said as follows.
“Don’t forget your first resolution as your inexpertness. Don’t forget your first resolution at any age level. Don’t forget your first resolution even after mellowed.”
We form resolutions of each size according to our own growth since our youth, and have “first resolution.” As long as you have a strong resolution, you will eventually accomplish anything as there is a saying “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
At the beginning of the year, we would like to renew our resolutions, inspire the original intentions and work toward the goals. It is said that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Shall we walk steadily, step by step, with firm guidelines?

(Update on 2020. June 4)


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